Saturday, March 28, 2015

currently

Ever feel like blogging but don't really have anything that important to write about?  Yea, that's me today.  So, I might ramble on about absolutely nothing.  You have been warned.



Reading:   Sadly, nothing!  I have a few books lined up but nothing that looks so great that I can't wait to pick it up and start reading... So there they sit.  Taking recommendations for really good books, the kind where I won't mind losing hours of sleep because even though I know I have to get up early with Arlo, the book is so good I will stay up way past my bedtime reading it.


Making: Ugh - again, nothing lately!  I have all the supplies for a really cute crochet project but haven't had much motivation to start.  The idea of getting out my yarn, scissors, and hooks is not all that appealing when I know our tornado of a toddler is going to grab them and run off the second he can.  And I thought it was hard to crochet with cats...


Eating:  Smoothies!  Wait - can you eat a smoothie?!  We have been on quite the smoothie kick lately.  I discovered a couple of weeks ago that Arlo will drink smoothies (and only smoothies) from a straw cup, so I have been making one everyday to replace his afternoon bottle.  Favorite smoothie ingredients right now are bananas, blueberries, spinach, flax oil, vanilla, and Arlo's milk concoction (hemp, oat, soy, and flax milk mixed in equal parts.)  He loves it and so do I!


Feeling:  Mildly frustrated with house hunting.  Everything we find that is the right size in the right location is a plain squarish box with no character.  Everything we find that actually has character is about half the size we are looking for, or in an undesirable location.  Trying to have faith that something will come along soon.  I am not eager to leave our current area - but I am eager to know where we will land next.  And then get our current house on the market.  So I guess what I am really feeling is a bit impatient.


Wearing:  Ummmm....  So my wardrobe these days are pretty much yoga leggings and non-pajama t-shirts.  And yes, to a mom of a toddler this actually counts as real clothes.  Comfortable, easy to pick out, and perfect for chasing our (almost) 15 month old around the house, playground, or library.  Let's face it - we don't really go anyplace too fancy these days.



Watching:  Parenthood, season five.  I almost gave up on this show when it got a little slow and boring.  So glad I stuck with it, it is soooo good again!  Almost done with this season and can't wait to see what happens next.  Sadly, Erik couldn't hang and has not been watching it with me.  However, the timing has been great - Parenthood for me while he watches basketball.  Gotta love March Madness  :)


Looking forward to:  Easter!  Not only am I super excited for Arlo to wake up and see his Easter basket and hunt for eggs, but we also have special visitors that will be here over Easter weekend.  Mémère and Papa (Erik's parents) are coming to visit!  Although we have Skype dates with them from time to time, we have not seen them in person since Thanksgiving.  I can't wait for them to see how much Arlo has changed since then.


Loving:  Warm spring days (today excluded - it's very cold outside considering we are at the end of March.)  Playdates with Arlo's little friends (and their parents who are capable of adult conversation!)  Reading books to Arlo - he is finally starting to bring them to me as if he wants to sit together and read (and when he does my heart melts into a little puddle on the floor.)  and also, Sunday morning yoga with Mama R.  It is the best!



And I can't put up a post without a picture of Arlo, so here is a few taken this morning at a local Easter egg hunt.  We met up with our good friends, the W family.  It was the kids first egg hunt and they had so much fun.  There were 2,000 eggs hidden in a large grassy area, and both babies would have been happy to have grabbed just one each.  Ha!  They are the cutest...


besties

there are 2,00 eggs here, but this one is my favorite!



Saturday, March 21, 2015

Arlo starts school!

So, two weeks ago we had an unexpected announcement from our nanny.  She told us that she was starting a new full-time job and would no longer be able to watch Arlo on the two days that I work.  And on top of that, she could only watch him for one more day, not giving us much time to find alternative child care.  Eeek!  After the initial shock wore off, I began to think of a couple of nannies who had watched Arlo short-term in the past, but I also remembered that a new childcare center/preschool just a couple of miles down the road had recently opened up.  I decided to check them out the day after she gave me the news.  By the end of that week, Arlo was enrolled!




If you would have told me a year ago that I would ever put Arlo into a group child care, I would have said "no, you are crazy, I would quit my job before that ever happened."  I don't know what it is I feared so much about it, probably the germs and idea that he would have to eat whatever foods they served.  I also was nervous that he wouldn't get the individualized attention that he got at home with a nanny who was there to care for just him.  But now that he is over a year old, I can really see the benefits to starting him in this type of program.

We love that at school, Arlo gets to spend lots of time with other boys and girls his age.  He loves being around other kids and I know he gets bored when he has to spend a lot of time at home.  Even just taking him shopping or out to play in the yard, makes him way happier than trying to entertain him with his indoor toys.  As soon as I visited and saw all the toddlers happily playing together, I knew it would be a great fit for our energetic little man.  That being said - we certainly will miss Mrs. K.  She was an awesome nanny for Arlo these past few months, and he would always smile and go right to her when she arrived.  Many evenings when Erik came home from work, Arlo would cling to Mrs. K as if he didn't want her to leave. But now that Arlo is older and more social, putting him in school instead of finding someone else for in-home childcare feels like the right thing to do.

I absolutely love the school that we found for Arlo.  Since it is brand new, everything is super clean, the toys are all new and shiny, and the facility has the most up-to-date technology.  There are security cameras in every room, outside, and in the parking lot that are monitored throughout the day.  The school is not technically considered a Montessori, but it has a similar education-based program.  In addition to teaching baby signs, which we are already doing at home, the school also has a Spanish immersion program (although, I am not too worried about him learning another language when he still has yet to really start speaking English, ha!)

Everyday the kids go outside at least once for playtime on the toddler-sized playground equipment, and also spend time playing a huge indoor gymnasium.  Their classroom is roomy and filled with lots of age-appropriate toys, little toddler-sized chairs and tables (no high-chairs here!) and low to the ground cots that they take their naps on (no cribs either!)  There are no bottles allowed, which I was nervous about at first because Arlo had been used to three bottles of milk a day, but so far he has done quite well drinking his milk out of a sippy cup like the other kids do.  There is also no spoon-feeding the toddlers; the teachers let the kids feed themselves however they can, helping with utensils as needed, but not doing everything for them.  They read and sing to the kids, do arts & crafts, and have lots of free play time as well.  One of the best parts (and reasons that we decided to enroll him here) was the fact that they let us bring in our own food and milk for Arlo.  Since we feed him organic, plant-based foods at home, it was important for us to be able to continue this at school.  They are also letting us bring in our cloth diapers, which I was really surprised and happy to learn.  Disposable diapers and wipes are included in the cost of tuition, however the reasons we choose to use cloth are not just financial, but also for environmental and health, and we are glad they are so accommodating to our request.

So far, Arlo has had three days at school, and with the exception of his third day which was a "fussy day" for him, he has been doing really well.  I am not sure what was up the last time he was at school, but it seems to be a new trend these past few days, as he has just not been his usual happy self.  He isn't sick and is done with teething for a while (I think) so hopefully he will quickly work through whatever seems to be bothering him lately. 

My fear of germs is slowly dissipating, likely because of the cleanliness of the building and strict attention they pay to hand washing and disinfecting the surfaces.  That being said, Erik and I agreed that this would be a trial, and if Arlo started to get sick often we would have to reevaluate our plan.  I really hope that it works out though, so far we have been extremely happy with his program and feel that he is in a safe and caring environment.




Oh, and one last thing.  We are calling it "school" and not "daycare" because the program he is in is much more than just someone taking care of his basic needs.  It is an education-based program that seems just as structured as kindergarten, and his teacher has a bachelors degree in early childhood education.  Even as early as 12 months old, they start teaching the kids colors, numbers, words, and work on potty training when they show signs of being ready.  And we will be attending parent-teacher conferences, so you know, that pretty much makes it official  ;)  Finally, another plus of calling it such, is that when Arlo does start "pre-school" he will already know what "school" is which should make for an easier transition.



And yes, this backpack is empty.  He just loves wearing it  :)

Saturday, March 14, 2015

the nursery.

If the occupant is no longer considered an infant, can you still call their room a nursery?  I have wanted to share photos of Arlo's room since before he was born.  I kept delaying this post due to not being completely finished decorating, and while it's still not 100% done (will it ever be?) I have decided it's finally time to just share how it looks right now so I can always remember his first bedroom.  I would describe my style as eclectic and tend to choose natural and organic elements - handmade and recycled when possible, so his room is kind of a hodgepodge of vintage, new, and DIY projects.  While his is the smallest room in our house, it is also definitely one of my favorites!

When we started remodeling our house over two years ago, I knew that we would be using this room as the nursery, and choose to start painting in there first.  As I did with every single room in the house, I painted the ceiling, walls, window trim and baseboards, door and door trim, and closet shelving.  I wasn't even pregnant with Arlo yet, but always had a feeling that we would have boys, and choose a very subtle blue paint for the walls.  Together, Erik and I installed a switch for the closet light (formerly a pull-cord) and wired in a ceiling light above the changing table.  I love how it turned out, and I am so excited to finally share it with y'all.

Welcome to Arlo's room!


wall shelves:  hand built from scrap lumber by Erik, painted by me.
toys on shelves:  lamb with red heart sewn by me, cat and dragon crocheted by me.  I also made the bunting.  shoes are the ones I bought for the baby announcement photo!  the rest of items are gifts.
cloud wall clock:  made by me.  I ordered the wood from etsy, painted it and installed a clock mechanism.
rocking chair and ottoman:  yard sale find.
quilt on the chair:  hand made my my mom, but I choose the fabric and pattern.  free pattern available here!
side table:  bought secondhand, metal basket full of burp cloths made by me.  baby monitor is by Anglecare.
curtains:  I wish I could say I made them myself, but I was running out of time as my due date was approaching and ended up buying these from TJ Maxx. 



Crib:  this was my baby crib (it is 32 ½ years old)!  After I was done using it as a baby, it was kept at my Grandparents house in northern Michigan.  all of my younger cousins slept in it when they went to visit Grandma and Grandpa.  at first I was unsure if this crib was really "my style" for Arlo's room, and thought about painting it a fun color.  I am so glad I kept it original - I absolutely love it's vintage look.  we bought a new mattress, Little Dreamer by Moonlight Slumber (which I highly recommend!)  small cart at the foot of the crib holds the cloth diapers and a few books that Arlo can easily access.
crochet mobile:  Little Veggie Mobile - one of my original designs.  pattern available in my etsy store  :)
photo on wall:  gift from friend


birdcage:  I saw this in a catalog before I was even pregnant, and knew it would be perfect for a future nursery.  this was the first thing I ever bought for the room!  on it, I have displayed ultrasound photos, the pregnancy announcement I hung up at work, Arlo's birth announcement, a whale I crocheted, a bunny I hand sewed, and photos of Arlo that rotate as he continues to grow and change.
dresser/changing table:  found on Craigslist, and we paid a bit more than I wanted to because it fit in this little alcove so perfectly.  I think it cost $80, but it is solid wood and was already painted the exact color I was looking for.  there are maybe two inches to the wall on either side, and it's the perfect height for a changing table.  all I did was change out the knobs to solid bronze to match the rest of the hardware in the house. 
changing pad:  bought on Amazon but I can't remember which brand it is.  I know it has an organic cotton cover and is contoured on all four sides.  I sewed the changing pad cover myself, and made a couple of other ones so we have extras.
little basket:  don't know where it came from, but I use it to store baby lotion, diaper rash stick, flannel cloth wipes (made by my mom), and a squirt bottle with plain water to wet the cloth wipes.



inside the crib:  Arlo's favorite stuffed animal - snugamonkey!  also, an alligator I crocheted and little gnome doll I sewed.  the monkey and colorful caterpillar were baby shower gifts.  the flannel receiving blanket at the foot of the crib was one of many made by Erik's mom, and we have been using these since Arlo was born!


Arlo says "hi! thanks for stopping by!"


the closet:  not as organized as it was in the very beginning, that's for sure!  I keep most of his clothes in the dresser for easy access when we are changing him, but have the less frequently used items hanging up, as well as things I have bought for the next season so I can keep track of what I still need to buy as he grows.  also stored in here are sheets, blankets, shoes, some toys, hats, books for bedtime reading, his suitcase, and extra diaper inserts and wipes.  I also have quite the stockpile of disposable diapers (for nighttime use and traveling) on the top shelf as I scored a great deal online and stocked up a while back!


Thanks for coming along on the nursery tour.  Now if you'll excuse Arlo, it's time for his nap!


Saturday, March 7, 2015

Adventures in Jamaica

As mentioned in one of my last posts, Erik and I recently spent six days in Jamaica.  I actually started writing this while we were on our trip and made little notes along the way so I would remember everything I wanted to write about.  As I sit here today finishing it, huge snowflakes are falling outside and I am home from work on an unexpected snow day.  Arlo is napping, and I am wrapped from head to toe in a large quilt. Here is hoping the memories of sun, sand, and 80 degree weather can somehow warm me up on this frigid winter day.  Also, this is officially the longest post I have ever written.  It's more of a short story than a blog post.  I never intended to make it this long, but every time I thought about cutting out something that happened, I realized that I wanted to remember it all.  So, that being said, here goes...


I am being honest, Jamaica was not quite what I expected it to be.  Although I didn’t really know what to expect being that we took the trip at such short notice and I didn't really have time to research the area that we visited, Negril, Jamaica.  Erik and I spent six days there, and here are the details of our crazy adventure.

Day 1:  Our flight left RDU airport at 6:20am on a Sunday, meaning we had to be up by 3:45am and out the door by 4:15am.  Fortunately, it was a rather uneventful flight to Miami, and then another uneventful flight onto Montego Bay, Jamaica.  We landed just before noon, at Sangster International Airport.  Flying in was just as my co-worker told me it would be – looking out the window you can see nothing but clear blue water.  It looks as if you are going to land directly into the ocean and at the very last minute, seconds before the wheels touch down, the land becomes visible and soon after the plane slows down in what seems to be record time.  Since we carried on all of our luggage, we bypassed baggage claim and headed straight for immigration and customs.

My heart was racing as we approached immigration.  I realized when we booked our trip just two weeks prior, that I had never updated my passport with my married name.  Even with expedited service (and a hefty additional processing fee) it was likely that my new passport wouldn’t arrive in time for the trip.  After consulting our trusty friend Google, it was determined that if we booked my plane ticket under my maiden name, we should have no problems.  As long as my passport matched my ticket, no one should be any the wiser.  I smiled and Erik made jokes with the lady behind the immigration counter as I tried to remain calm and collected, and as soon as I knew it we were on our way to the other side…  whew!

Now comes the point that I wish I could press the rewind button and go back in time to re-do this part of our trip.  Immediately past immigration was a currency exchange window.  The sweet girl standing in front of the window smiled at us and said – “exchange your money here, no fees!”  Even thought we had been told by the place we were staying that no exchange was really necessary, the currency exchange girls told us that we get a better rate for things if we pay in Jamaican.  Plus, the exchange rate had to be government set and standard everywhere, right?  We exchanged most of the cash we brought to start the trip, which was $245, into a little over $23,000 Jamaican – wow, we were suddenly rich!  Later on, as we were checking into the place we were staying for the trip, we learned that the airport currency exchange is considered a “business” and gives you a lower rate than other places in town will.  They gave us $95 Jamaican dollars to every US dollar, and the Cambio in town would have given us around $119 Jamaican for each US dollar.  Live and learn!

After we made the not-so-wise decision of exchanging our money, we exited out to the taxi/bus area to catch a Juta bus to Negril.  It is called a bus service, but they are really just basic passenger vans which seat around nine people.  We hopped inside the van they directed us to and started chatting with the other two people already inside, a young couple who looked to be about our age.  After learning they were from the Midwest and discussing our backgrounds in further detail, it was learned that the male half of the couple went to the same high school as Erik.  Which would have been less of a coincidence if they hadn’t gone to a small, all-boy, private Catholic school in a small Michigan town, him graduating just a few years after Erik did.  As we were discussing this and laughing about the whole thing, a local with a thick Jamaican accent opened the van door and started chatting with us.  When we explained the high school story he looked like we had told him we just landed from Mars and said only “what. the. fuck.”  More laughter ensued, and then he told us that Jamaica was the place to “have sex, make baby, get high, and drink.”  I later learned he was probably asking us if we wanted to buy weed but we didn’t give him the answer he was looking for so he moved on.

Once the other passengers joined us and we were ready to go, I quickly learned about the most dangerous thing in Jamaica.  Although there were posted speed limits on the roadside, it didn’t seem as if any traffic rules whatsoever were actually enforced.  The narrow two lane road from Montego Bay to Negril followed the coast the entire time, providing a beautiful scenic drive with small mountains on the left and clear, blue ocean on the right.  It would have been a relaxing drive had the whole thing not been like something out of a Jamaican race car video game.  For starters, they drive on what us Americans consider the “wrong side" of the road.  Every time I looked to the side to enjoy the view and then turned to glance out the front window my heart skipped a beat when I saw cars flying at us in the right-hand lane.  I quickly became thankful that I had chosen to buckle my seat belt which seemed to be completely optional in this strange, new land.  Besides the brain trickery that comes with being on the wrong side of the street, there were people passing in both lanes, always seeming to just narrowly miss a car coming right for them in the opposite lane.  A few times I even saw scooters pass as another car was in the other lane, driving at crazy speeds down a winding road with what seemed as just inches between it and the cars on both it’s left and right moving in opposite directions.  Did I also mention that almost none of the scooter/motorcycle drivers were wearing helmets?!

Besides the crazy drivers, frequent horn honking, and scenic views, the drive also consisted of swerving around a heard of goats randomly taking a walk down the country road, stray dogs, and passing through numerous poverty-stricken areas.  Our driver played Bob Marley-ish Jamaican tunes, pointed out landmarks, and thankfully got us safely to where we were staying for the week, The Negril Yoga Center.  Upon first glance, our accommodations seemed disappointingly utilitarian.  Our private hut, with a pointed metal roof which shape reminded me of a circus tent, had a small kitchenette and bathroom off to the side.  The shower was outdoors, which we were looking forward to, and would have probably enjoyed if we would have had hot water when we went to shower before bed!  There were many windows in the hut, but they only had screens and wooden shutters – no glass panes.  The floor was wooden and you could actually see through to the ground in a few places where the boards didn’t quite meet up.  Erik was immediately in love with the place, however it took me until the next day to really warm up to it.  The gardens however, were absolutely beautiful, with winding sidewalks between the numerous small buildings, a few commons areas, and a large outdoor yoga studio.

After we unloaded our stuff in our room, we texted home to check in (yes, Arlo was doing great my parents informed me) and then headed across the street for our first dip in the Caribbean Sea.  It was quite windy on the day we arrived and the water was rather choppy, kicking up sand below and clouding the usual crystal-clear waters.  That didn’t stop us from enjoying the water, although we didn’t stay long, having grown hungry for dinner earlier than usual due our early wake-up and weird eating schedule that day.  We got cleaned up for dinner and decided to walk into downtown Negril, and then continued on to the West End in search of a restaurant which served Ital, vegan Jamaican food.  The manager of the yoga center tried to get us to take a cab to dinner, but after sitting all day we were looking forward to the walk.  Heading into town was fine, there was a sidewalk the entire length of the road and once we got used to the numerous cars that would slow down and honk (cabs wanting to give us a ride, or just honking at one another for various reasons) it seemed like the walk was a good idea.  This was, until we got passed downtown Negril.  Then the sidewalk disappeared and the road started winding upwards, around sharp bends requiring us to walk in the actual street.  I should explain something about Negril here. North of town, where we were staying is the famous "Seven Mile Beach", rated one of the top 10 beaches in the world. It's really 4-ish miles long, but whatever; it's beautiful. South and sort of West of town is where the famous cliffs are. This is why the road got narrow and 'windy' so quickly. After about 10-15 minutes of this I started to get an uneasy feeling, wondering where we were and if the restaurant was even anywhere nearby.  Looking around, we were pretty much the only non-locals in the area, and we were surrounded by small roadside buildings and shacks.  We passed a few restaurants but none that looked like the one we were looking for, so we finally stopped to ask a couple of ladies at a roadside fruit stand where the West End was.  “Ohhhh it’s way down, 'bout four or five miles” they said.  They then recommended, as the Yoga Center manager had, that we take a cab.  Since we had already walked so far, taking a cab would feel like defeat.  Erik asked if there were any vegetarian restaurants nearby.  One of the ladies faces lit up and she said “yes, back two turns in the road.  Near the Bob Marley Birthday Bash sign. Vegetarian food, very good.”  We remembered that sign as we had commented on it (it happened that his birthday was the weekend prior) as we walked past.  It was only a three or four minute walk back in the direction which we had come from.

We thanked the ladies and headed back in the other direction, now happy to know we had an actual plan and that dinner wasn't too far off.  We entered into what appeared as a large, fenced-in courtyard.  There was an outdoor bar off to the left, and a larger rectangular building off to the right.  We were clearly the only non-locals in the whole place, and I could feel the eyes of the few people who were hanging around watch us as we walked in.  We headed to the bar and said we were looking for the vegetarian restaurant.  "It's right here!" the lady said.  "Where?" I thought.  Outside?  Next to this bar?  As it turns out, yep - it was an outdoor restaurant (like so many others in Negril) and we were soon seated on a picnic table between the bar and small screened-in building that served as the kitchen.  Erik mentioned that we were vegan, and the lady who came to take our order turned around and told the guy sitting near the door that we were "strict vegetarian."  As he got up and headed in the kitchen, she looked at us and told us that she had just placed our order.  "Um, okay." I thought.  No choice here apparently.  I glanced up at the handwritten cardboard sign which hung on the side of the kitchen, and noticed a few different dishes listed, some with tofu, some vegetables, and some with beans.  I said, "by chance, did you order the 'vegetables with tofu chunks'?" thinking that while the word "chunks" wasn't too appetizing, anything with tofu and vegetables usually is.  She said again, nicely but a little more sternly "I told you, I just ordered for you!"  It was pretty clear at that point that we were going to get whatever they brought us whether we liked it or not.

Meanwhile, one of the guys who was standing at the bar came up to us.  It was obvious after he started talking that he was the owner, or a worker, but somehow belonged to the restaurant.  He flashed us a big grin and informed us in a thick Jamaican accent that if we wanted to "light up a spliff" or drink any of his homemade "ganja wine" we were more than welcome to do so.  Sitting there, feeling a bit out of place in our whiter than white, pale northerner skin, we realized that nearly everyone around us was smoking pot.  When the waitress came back to bring our waters, Erik inquired as to what the gathering of people were doing across the courtyard, as a large bunch were exiting the rectangular building and it looked like they were sitting up for some kind of musical gig.  "They are having a meeting to discuss the legalization of ganja" she told us.  Erik and I exchanged glances that said the same thing "Toto, I don't believe we are in Kansas anymore." I was informed before the trip that the use of marijuana was pretty heavy in Jamaica, but I was under the assumption that being technically illegal, we wouldn't see it openly used.  I couldn't have been more wrong.  People in Negril smoked joints like people in the US smoke cigarettes - pretty much any public space that they please.  Here in the US, when you are out and about and catch a whiff of pot, you look around and wonder who is brave enough to do it openly, seeing that it carries (depending on in which state you live) quite the punishment if caught.  By the time we left Negril, we had grown so used to it being everywhere, it would have seemed odd if at any given time, there wasn't the familiar smell lingering nearby.

The food they served was very good - rice and beans, tofu, another mock meat, and a side of veggies.  One of the traditional Jamaican foods is known as "Ital" and is for the most part, always vegan.  Finding Ital and other vegan dishes is very easy while in Jamaica, which is one of the primary reasons we chose to visit the island.  The Yoga Center had a kitchen on site that served breakfast and lunch daily, with plenty of vegan options.  So thankfully following our plant-based diet wasn't any issue during our trip, and every time we went out to eat, the restaurants understood what we meant when we voiced our dietary preferences.

After dinner, we took a taxi back to where we were staying, and then walked across the street to the outdoor bar that was next to the beach where we spent all of our "beach time" while on our trip.  We ordered the Jamaican rum punch (delicious but ohhhh so strong) and then watched the sunset on the beach.  Later that evening while trying to fall asleep, I felt my first pangs of homesickness, missing Arlo, hot water, and a bedroom that didn't have a very loud bird outside the window.  When packing for the trip I removed everything from my suitcase and purse that wasn't absolutely essential since we were carrying our luggage onto the plane and space was limited, and made the terrible decision to leave my earplugs at home.  I fashioned myself a pair of earplugs out of a tampon - go ahead and laugh, but it worked, and then tried to get some sleep.  I couldn't help but feel a little annoyed as I laid there in bed.  The cold shower and loud bird had put me in somewhat of a funk and I was disappointed our vacation was starting out like it was.  I then remembered the areas we drove through on the way in from the airport.  The people living in tiny shacks which probably didn't have running water.  The stray dogs out scavenging for food.  The mamas with their babies, children running around next to the busy road, who knew if they had enough food to eat.  This really put things in perspective, and I had the realization that the cute little hut we were sleeping in with its running water, electricity, and little kitchen would be considered luxurious to them.  This not only helped me fall asleep that night, but also shifted my attitude to one of gratefulness for the duration of the trip.

Erik and I on our first dip in the water

Day 2:  The next morning we awoke feeling rested and refreshed.  We had been able to sleep until our bodies naturally woke up, and even though that might have only been 7:30am, to us that was sleeping in!  We had planned to start everyday with a yoga class, but Erik's back was acting up and he wanted to skip yoga the first day.  I decided I would as well, as we were both feeling anxious to grab breakfast and head to the beach.  We ordered breakfast at the Yoga Center - they have a little kitchen you can order at, and then can sit at any one of the many tables in the property gardens, and they will bring your food out to you when it's ready.  Everything is fresh and made-to-order.  We decided to try the traditional Jamaican breakfast of ackee (though no Saltfish for us!), calalou, Johnny cakes, fresh fruit, and hand-squeezed juice on the size.  It. was. amazing.  So good in fact, that we had the same exact thing every single morning until we left to come home. 

breakfast every morning - ackee (looks like eggs), calalou (green veg), and Johnny cakes (breakfast biscuits)

After breakfast, we decided to take a quick walk into town in search of earplugs, beach towels (we thought the center might have them but it turns out they didn't), and shampoo (again, thought it would be available upon arrival and it wasn't.)  Downtown Negril is small but busy.  Everyone outside wants to sell you something, be it ganja, bracelets, or a cab ride.  As we were headed inside the pharmacy a man sitting on the side of the road said "you goin' to the pharmacy?  I got your percocet right here!"  "No thanks, but have you got any earplugs?"  I replied.  The look he gave me in return as I walked away was one of confusion mixed with annoyance.  After visiting two separate pharmacies and a grocery store, there were still no earplugs to be found.  I was told when I asked the clerks that the earplugs were "finished" which I eventually took to mean sold out. 

With our towels and shampoo in hand (those were readily available in town) we returned to the Yoga Center to get ready for the beach.  Luckily, I was able to acquire a pair of earplugs from the main office.  As we headed across the street to the beach, we found the water to be much calmer than the day previous.  Without waves to kick up sand from the ocean floor, the water was crystal clear and so, so blue.  The temperature that day was in the mid 80's, and we spent the next couple of hours playing in the water and lounging on the beach.  As we left the beach that afternoon, there were a few men standing near the sidewalk we took to get back, chopping coconuts off a tree branch.  Erik was so intrigued, and it was obvious he wanted one.  One of the men said "give him a coconut!" and remembering we hadn't brought any money with us to the beach, I let him know that right away.  People in Jamaica are always happy to help you, give you things, or offer you a service, but always expect payment in return - even if you didn't ask for what they were giving you.  "No problem mon - these are free!" he said.  They gave us each a coconut, after chopping off the top half to make a hole in the top to drink from.  We headed back to the center, sipping on the most delicious coconut water I have ever tasted.



Lunch was at a nearby Thai restaurant, and then we treated ourselves to massages in the afternoon.  The Yoga Center offers massages on site in a small, round stone building dedicated to that purpose.  Knowing that we were going to try and schedule a second massage later in the week, we decided to split the hour long massage into two 30 minute massages each.  After the massage, I finished my coconut water in the most blissful state I can remember being in in a long time.  Between the sun, sand, crystal blue water, massage, and coconut water, I was dizzy with relaxation and falling more in love with Jamaica by the minute.  The previous night became a distant memory as we settled in to what was starting to be the vacation that I was hoping to have all along.

That night we headed out to the West End, this time wise enough to take a cab to get us there.  We had heard a lot about a restaurant called Just Natural, which while it does serve some fish, is primarily vegetarian.  It was around a 15 minute drive to get all the way out there, and was somewhat of an experience just to get to.  We had decided to walk the 10 or so minutes to get to town, and then catch a taxi to the restaurant.  When trying to cross the street, a local man approached us and told us we should eat at his restaurant nearby.  When we told him our plans to head to the West End, he said we needed to take a taxi there.  This, from last night, we already knew!  He literally walked out into the busy road to stop traffic for us, called us to follow him, and walked us across to where several cabs were lined up waiting for passengers.  All the while, he kept talking about how he liked to help Americans, how we were "his people and his friends" and how he could help us get the "regular rate" for our taxi fare.  We quickly learned, despite their best efforts to hide it, that the locals paid a much lower cab fare than us tourists.  Our new friend led us up to one of the cab drivers, explained where we were going and that he should give us the regular rate.  We climbed into his cab along with two other locals, and off we went.  Erik and I were both sure he was looking for some kind of tip or payment for his help, but as we drove off he was still smiling and yelling about how Americans were his "people" so I don't think we upset him by not giving him what he was looking for.

Our cab driver clearly was not happy about the exchange that occurred before we entered his cab, and started talking to the two other passengers in a language that Erik and I couldn't understand.  The official language of Jamaica is English, however another English-based creole language with West African influences known as Patois (pat-wah) is also spoken by the locals.  We heard it used often during our trip, usually by cab drivers communicating with local passengers, seemingly so we couldn't understand what they were saying.  Erik asked the driver if he knew the guy who was helping him, and the lady sitting next to me sighed and softly said "oh yes."  The way she said it made me think he was well-known around the small town and this wasn't the first time he had pulled his little stunt.  Even though the cab driver seemed mildly irritated, as he dropped us off at our destination he handed us his card and told us to call him when we were finished.  After the drive there, which started on the main road but eventually turned off onto a side street and ended in what seemed like the middle of nowhere, we definitely were not leaving on foot.  The drivers name was Donovan, but he went by his cabbie name of "Prayer Key." After thanking Donovan again for the ride, he kindly told us that if a Jamaican has a nick-name, he much prefers to be called by it. Message received, and this wasn't the last time we'd see Prayer Key. He ended up becoming somewhat of an acquaintence of ours, and we hung onto his card for the duration of the trip, calling him several more times when we needed a ride.  We didn't end up getting the "regular rate."  He asked us to just pay him whatever we wanted, and we gave him $6 US, about twice what the locals would pay.  He was a good driver (by the crazy Jamaican standards), entertaining, and kind to us.

Just Natural turned out to be yet another unique dining experience for us.  Except for one other couple, the place was empty.  When you walk up to the restaurant, there is a small building with a roof, but otherwise open to the outside.  This is where you place your dinner and drink order, and then seat yourself around back of the building.  Even though we had eaten Ackee for breakfast that day, it was so delicious we decided to order it again.  All the meals come with soup and desert, and the prices are incredibly low.  I think the whole meal, plus Erik's beer came to around $15 US.  After we ordered, we were instructed to walk "through the gardens" and find a table to eat at.  The garden seemed more like a jungle with a narrow pathway.  It was dark by this point, and the area was dimly lit by Christmas lights strung in various directions.  Tables and chairs were randomly placed throughout the rather large garden, and we found ourselves a private little table to sit at.  The waitress brought out our dinner in three courses, soup, main dish, and then dessert.

The meal was one of the best we had while in Jamaica.  After we ate and waited for Donovan to come pick us up, we sat by the main building and chatted with the owner, a sweet older woman probably in her 60's.  She told us that her parents had owned the restaurant years ago, and she had taken it over from them.  I gathered from the way she spoke about Jamaica that she, along with many other locals we talked to during our trip, had never even left the island.  After visiting the "large" downtown grocery store that day, and seeing the somewhat meager selection of food, limited selection of personal care items, and overall sparsity of the stores in Negril, I couldn't imagine living my whole life there.  I couldn't help but wonder what she would have thought if she was suddenly dropped off in the middle of a Target store. 

We arrived back at the Yoga Center too late to catch the sunset, but still decided to head across the street and grab a drink.  Later that night, at the end of yet another cold shower, I decided to see what would happen if I let the cold water run for a while.  We were told that day that there is no reason our shower shouldn't have hot water, even at night.  The water at the Center is heated by solar power - not solar panels, but large rain barrel-looking containers that are set upon the roofs of the cottages to heat directly from the sun.  Since the roof of our cottage was pointed, our hot water was obtained by a nearby cottage, and the distance combined with the low water pressure requires extra time to obtain hot water.  I was thrilled to discover the knobs in our shower were in fact reversed, and we were able to enjoy hot water for the remainder of the trip.  Halleluiah!

Day 3:  I decided to start my day with one of the yoga classes offered at the center.  They have two per day, morning and afternoon, for $10 per class.  Erik decided to sit out since his back was still bothering him a bit.  While I did enjoy the class which focused primarily on slow movement and body awareness, I typically practice a bit faster paced vinyasa flow.  So I figured that we might try the afternoon class the next day, or perhaps just practice in the outdoor studio on our own time.  After yoga we had breakfast then spent the morning at the beach.  We had a big adventure planned for the afternoon, and before heading out we grabbed a quick lunch back the Center.

outside the yoga center on our way to the beach

At the beach across the street from where we were staying, there was a little building which rented out snorkels and fins, and we had planned on trying that out until we asked the manager at the Center where she would recommend snorkeling.  She said they have a boat company they work with that will take us out to the reef, let us snorkel, and then bring us back, with equipment included in the cost.  Well, the decision was not difficult to make, at only $10 more per person than the beach snorkeling we signed up right away.  That afternoon, a cab picked us up at the Center, and dropped us off at the beach where the boat was parked.  There was supposed to be another couple joining us on the trip, but they cancelled at the last minute, and it ended up being just us on a private boat to the reef.

The boat was like all the others we saw cruising around the beach - a basic wooden boat painted in fun Jamaican colors, with a glass bottom (which was really just a window mounted in the bottom of the boat) where you could see fish, starfish, coral, and sand during the entire trip to the reef.  There were two boatsmen (is that a word?) who took us on the trip.  I had no idea how far out the reef was, and while I was certainly enjoying the boat ride and views through the window on the bottom of the boat, it seemed like we were getting really far from shore.  The sun had gone behind a cloud at this point and the breeze off the ocean was starting to make me feel chilly.  I started to mildly panic in my head, wondering how I would ever get off the boat into what seemed like the middle of the ocean, where sharks and other dangerous sea creatures were certainly lurking below, just waiting to attack. 

boat ride to the reef

Finally, about 20 minutes out, we had reached our destination, marked by a few small bouies.  The shore still seemed really far away, and the sun still hadn't come back out.  The two men who had brought us out dropped the anchor and started getting the snorkeling equipment ready.  Erik started fiddling with his GoPro camera and I sat there still wondering how in the world I was going to get up the courage to jump into the water.  With our clumsy flippers and large goggles fitted and in place, one of the men instructed me to sit on the side of the boat.  I started telling him I was scared, giggling at the same time so I didn't seem like a big wimp.  Finally after a minute of convincing myself that there was probably not a shark below waiting to eat me, I climbed down the ladder and into the ocean.  Erik was readjusting his goggles and took an extra minute to get in the water.  During this time, I looked down through my goggles and into the water for the first time.  I was in awe of what I saw.  It was like I was suddenly dropped into the middle of a tropical fish tank.  Schools of bright yellow and blue fish swam below me.  The coral reef stretched from the bottom of the sea all the way up to near the top of the water in some places.  I lifted my head back up and said to Erik "you have to see this!!!"  As if he wasn't already planning on it, ha.


We spent close to an hour swimming and snorkeling around the reef.  After my initial view of what actually existed below us, my fear dissipated and was soon replaced by excitement and amazement.  Twice, a very large spotted ray swam near us, and Erik was able to capture it (although with not a very clear view) on video.  The ray glided by, swimming almost effortlessly, and although I knew I needed to keep my distance, both times I attempted to follow him to get a closer look.  We swam most of the time with life jackets around our waist to make it easier to enjoy the views below and help ensure our snorkels didn't end up underwater as we were trying to take a breath, but towards the end we ditched the life vests and swam freely among the fish.  The snorkeling trip was definitely the highlight of the trip, and I can't wait to do it again someday.









After we were finished snorkeling, the boat driver took us back and dropped us off right on our beach.  We swam and sunned ourselves for a bit, and even saw another ray cruise by right off the shoreline!  Had we not just seen them out at the reef I might not have known what the large dark sea creature was as he swam by, but I knew what it was right when I spotted it.  After the beach, we headed back to the Center and took our first hot shower (ahhhhhhh) of the trip, and got ready to head out for dinner.  We had heard from several people (and signs around the island) about a place called Rick's, and we decided to head out to the West End to check it out.

I will go on the record right here and now and express my dislike of touristy places.  They are called "tourist traps" for a reason, and Rick's was no exception.  Don't get me wrong - it was worth seeing it once, but I don't plan on ever heading back.  Rick's is a bar/restaurant right on the high cliffs, where locals cliff dive off at amazing heights, asking for tips before a big jump is performed.  Anyone can jump off the cliffs if they want, and there were several people who did so while we were there.  Having already experienced our adrenaline rush of the day as we swam with the sharks harmless tropical fish, we decided to sit back, enjoy a drink, and watch the cliff divers do their thing.  

watching the cliff divers at Ricks.  and yes - this is a very rare picture of me with my hair down!

 We had planned on eating dinner there, but seeing as they were mostly a fish place, we figured we would just order several things from the sides menu.  When we inquired about this, they told us that was not possible, they were only sides for an actual meal.  When we explained our dietary situation, pointing out there was not a single vegetarian meal on the menu, they told us that fine, we could order sides, but have to pay more for them.  In the end we ended up spending around $25 for a small side of french fries, the tiniest plate ever of chips and salsa, two bottles of water, and a Red Stripe for Erik.  Like I said - tourist. trap.  We didn't stay too long, as we wanted to head back to our beach to relax, grab a reasonably priced drink, and watch the sun set from the comfort of reclining beach chairs.  Which is exactly what we did.


Day 4:  The next morning we awoke early and decided to practice yoga in the outdoor studio on our own.  We arrived a little after 7:30am anticipating that it would be empty, but was surprised to find a class already in progress, with about six or so students in attendance.  They asked if we wanted to join in, and we decided to do so.  At the end of the class (90 minutes of power flow which completely kicked my ass) I learned that the whole class was a group of school teachers who had come together from Massachusetts.  The girl who was leading the class had just graduated from yoga teacher training and was offering free classes every morning while they were staying there.  Huzzah!  I made a plan then and there to be up early every morning for her class. 

lovely outdoor yoga studio at the Center

So I am now actually typing this nearly two weeks after our trip has ended, and since I blanked out on making notes about this day, I can't really remember the details.  I know it included the beach, and at some point we walked into town to a fruit stand where we picked up the most amazing locally grown fresh fruits.  Oh - we also went to the grocery store and bought the supplies for popcorn.  Our little cottage had a kitchen with a gas stove, and the previous few nights we had wished we had more snacks around.  That evening we went out to eat dinner at the Hungry Lion, and although I can't remember what we had, I know the meal was excellent.  If you are ever in Negril - stop in there for a bite!


fresh fruits from the market.  coconuts were picked from a tree at the Yoga Center

That evening we ended up hanging out with the group of teachers from the yoga class, and two other guys staying at the Center who we had already got to know a bit.  Erik and I popped up a huge batch of popcorn and brought it out to the commons area to share with everyone.  Each night after returning home from dinner or the bar across the street we choose to stay inside the gates of the Yoga Center for the remainder of the evening.  Negril is not a place where you would want to be walking around by yourself late at night.  I should say that we didn't hear first-hand of anything happening to tourists, or even second-hand, but rather it's the idea of being strangers (with money) in a strange land at night. It was widely encouraged to take taxis to anywhere near or through downtown at night. The Center had a locked gate and a nighttime security guard, and we felt very safe there.

Day 5:  Our last full day on the island.  After staying up too late, the 7:15am alarm I had set the day prior for yoga came awfully early.  I didn't want to get up but Erik encouraged me to, and I was glad that he did.  I could tell the other girls who had stayed out until something like 3am were also dragging that morning, so I was happy when the teacher announced that we would only be practicing for 60 minutes instead of 90, and that the class would be a bit less intense than the day previous.  This was great news, since all I really felt like doing was laying on my yoga mat and practicing savasana the whole hour, ha.

After our usual breakfast of ackee and calalou, we headed to the beach to find that the water was a bit rough due to some winds that had blown in the night prior.  We opted to lay on the beach most of the morning and read.  I finally finished Wild (so, so good!) and also got myself a pretty bad sunburn on both legs.  I had planned on swimming so I didn't put any sunblock on my lower half, and sure paid the price for it later that day. Erik actually finished his book as well. I say actually because he has been reading the same Bill Bryson book for a year and a half. He doesn't pick it up often so he felt quite accomplished to finish it and move onto the book he purchased at the airport, which he hasn't picked up again since that day on the beach.

Since it was our last full day in Jamaica, we decided to treat ourselves to one last big hurrah before we headed home the next day.  One of the other visitors at the Yoga Center who had visited many times before, recommended a spa on the West End, called Jackie's on the Reef.  We had planned on one more massage before we left, so we figured this would be a great place to go to get it.  We were informed that in addition to the usual spa amenities, they also had a chef on-site who could cook us a vegan meal after our massages, so we booked appointments for 3pm with plans to eat dinner afterwards.

The cab ride to Jackies was longer than we thought it would be.  We ended up on a long dirt road which the cab driver informed us used to be a runway that planes would use for drug smuggling.  The drive took about 30 minutes, but upon arrival it became immediately obvious that it was worth the long (and therefore expensive) cab trip.  If I had to envision paradise, it pretty much looks like Jackies on the Reef.  Go here and check out pictures, and if you ever find yourself in Jamaica you simply must treat yourself to an afternoon here.  The massage appointments prior to ours were running a bit over, so we had some time to explore the spa and enjoy the views.  Jackies on the Reef is a large, open to the outdoors building, which sits directly on the ocean.  There are several wide, pillow-covered bamboo cots to lounge on, and we choose to lay down, enjoy some cucumber water, and listen to the ocean while we waited.  Had I known what it was going to be like, I would have wanted to arrive an hour earlier than we did just so we could lounge around and enjoy the place for even longer.

We had booked a couples massage, and we had hoped it would be side by side.  What I didn't expect was for it to be right on the cliffs.  A little thatched hut where the property meats the ocean housed two massage tables, and this is where the masseuses led us to when they were ready for us.  Heaven.  That was where I felt like I had suddenly landed.  It was almost so surreal I didn't think it was really happening, and during the massage I kept thinking "is this really where we are?  how can this be?"


view from inside the massage hut

After our massages we went to the little outdoor kitchen to order our dinners.  Erik stepped away for a moment and the chef came out to talk to me.  Her accent was thick and I had a hard time understanding, but I did clearly hear something about pasta, corn, and vegetables.  Erik came back and joined me, and together we watched through the kitchen screen as she plated up two dishes.  Erik had mentioned on the phone that we would want a vegan meal after our massages, but we had no idea they were taking it upon themselves to create the dish, and have it ready for us when we were done.  The chef emerged with two plates in her hands, set them down in front of us, and said "I hope I don't disappoint you."  We probably appeared a bit confused, but decided to roll with it and just eat what she had cooked.  My goodness, it would have been a shame if we hadn't.  Perhaps it was the post-massage euphoria, but we both agreed that it was not only the best thing we had eaten on the island, but one of the better meals we had ever had in our lives.  We ate together on the large stone porch of the spa, watching the waves crash on the rocks.  Pretty much the best end to a vacation that we could ask for.

Day 6:  Since it was our last day on the island and we were leaving for the airport around 11am, I wanted to be sure I didn't miss out on our last opportunity for yoga with the girls.  It was yet another energizing class, and I felt so grateful that their trip had lined up with ours.  It really allowed me to have the yoga experience I was hoping to while we were there.  The rest of the morning was spent taking a quick walk to the beach to bid the ocean farewell, and packing up our stuff.  The details of the trip home are boring and not much worth mentioning.  It was a long day of travel and included somewhere around six hours of sitting in airports waiting for our plane.  Fortunately, the rest of the day was uneventful, and we landed just before midnight.  Erik had flat-out refused to show up in Jamaica wearing pants, and didn't bring a single pair with him on the trip.  So when we arrived home to a snow-covered ground and temperatures in the high teens, needless to say Erik was pretty darn cold.  We probably looked pretty silly running out of the airport wrapped in our brightly colored beach towels, but by that point we were exhausted and in a hurry to see our little man, even if he was fast asleep when we finally arrived home around 1:00am.


Overall, the trip to Jamaica was not what I had expected, but in so many ways better than I could have wanted it to be.  Going someplace new and really immersing myself in the local culture is quite the step out of my comfort zone, but wonderfully eye-opening at the same time.  The couple who we shared the Juta bus with on the way to the Yoga Center the day we had arrived, said they had visited Jamaica before and had a great experience.  They also mentioned that they had never left their resort during that trip.  I thought of them several times while we were there and wondered how many other people travel someplace and never leave their resorts.  Can you really get the feel of a new place without exploring all that it has to offer?

Many things surprised me on our trip.  The biggest thing was probably the driving.  I had never been to a place that had such loose traffic laws in place.  At one point I saw a woman get off a motorcycle taxi in town, with a baby no older than five months old in her arms, and another child of maybe four years old who had sat in front of the driver.  None of them wore helmets or safety gear of any kind.  In the local news this week I heard about parents who are being charged with child neglect because they let their pre-adolescent children walk home from the park alone (gasp).  And in Jamaica there are babies riding motorcycles with no helmets.  Let's get some perspective, people.

As far as the food, I was surprised at the availability of vegan dishes, and how everyplace we went people understood what you meant when you said vegan.  We also noticed that they season their dishes with far less salt than we are accustomed to. Ital food has no salt, and it certainly influences other cuisine on the island.  Definitely healthier, but took some getting used to.  Especially when there were not salt shakers readily available on the table.  The people were friendly everywhere we went, and everyone actually said "yeah mon" all the time, just like in the movie Cool Runnings!  By the end of the trip I found myself wanting to say it back.  We definitely plan to visit the Caribbean again, and although I loved Jamaica and think of it as a very unique place, I think we would travel to a different island next time.  See something new, but still swim in that beautiful, crystal clear ocean.  And on that trip, you better believe I will not be forgetting my earplugs...






A big thank-you to Erik for taking the time to proof read and edit this entire post, adding in some of his thoughts and memories (and for removing all of the completely unnecessary parenthesis I too often use.)